Concerns about a spouse’s drinking habits can create significant stress and uncertainty in a marriage. Understanding the signs of alcohol use disorder (AUD) helps a partner make informed decisions about seeking help for their husband and supporting their loved one’s recovery.
Understanding Alcohol Use Disorder
Alcohol use disorder exists on a spectrum, ranging from mild to severe. The condition can develop gradually, making it challenging to recognize when casual drinking has evolved into a serious health concern.
Common Signs of Alcohol Use Disorder
Changes in Drinking Patterns
- Drinking more or longer than intended
- Failed attempts to cut down or control alcohol use
- Spending significant time drinking or recovering from drinking
- Experiencing strong urges to drink
Impact on Daily Life
- Failing to fulfill work, school, or family obligations
- Continuing to drink despite relationship problems
- Giving up previously enjoyed activities
- Taking risks while drinking, such as driving
Physical and Emotional Signs
- Needing more alcohol to achieve desired effects
- Experiencing withdrawal symptoms when not drinking
- Continuing to drink despite physical or mental health problems
- Showing mood changes, especially irritability when unable to drink
How to Approach Your Concerns
Observe Patterns
Keep track of concerning behaviors and their impact on your relationship and family life. This information helps identify patterns and provides specific examples for discussion.
Choose the Right Time
Select a time to talk when your husband is sober and relatively calm. Avoid confrontations during or immediately after drinking episodes.
Use “I” Statements
Express concerns using statements that focus on your observations and feelings rather than accusations. For example: “I worry when you drink and drive” rather than “You’re being irresponsible.”
Listen Without Judgment
Create space for honest dialogue by listening to your husband’s perspective without immediate criticism or demands.
Supporting Your Spouse While Maintaining Boundaries
Set Clear Boundaries
Establish limits that protect your well-being and that of your family while supporting your spouse’s potential recovery journey.
Practice Self-Care
Maintain your own emotional and physical health through:
- Regular exercise and proper nutrition
- Professional counseling if needed
- Connection with supportive friends and family
- Participation in support groups for families affected by alcohol use
Avoid Enabling Behaviors
Recognize the difference between supporting recovery and enabling continued drinking:
- Don’t cover up for alcohol-related problems
- Allow natural consequences to occur
- Maintain consistent boundaries
- Focus on your own well-being
Getting Professional Help
Treatment Options
Professional treatment provides structured support for both the individual with AUD and their family members. Options include:
- Medical detoxification when necessary
- Inpatient rehabilitation programs
- Outpatient treatment services
- Family therapy
- Support groups for both the person with AUD and their loved ones
Swift River’s Approach to Family Recovery
At Swift River, we understand that alcohol use disorder affects the entire family. Our comprehensive treatment programs include:
For Individuals with AUD
- Medically supervised detoxification when needed
- Evidence-based therapeutic approaches
- Skill-building for maintaining sobriety
- Relapse prevention planning
For Family Members
- Family therapy sessions
- Educational programs about AUD
- Communication skills training
- Support for establishing healthy boundaries
- Resources for ongoing family recovery
Taking the First Step
Recognizing signs of alcohol use disorder in a spouse can feel overwhelming, but help is available. Swift River’s experienced team provides compassionate support for both individuals struggling with alcohol use and their family members.
Our treatment programs create a foundation for both individual recovery and family healing. We work with each family to develop appropriate treatment plans and provide ongoing support throughout the recovery journey.
If you’re concerned about your husband’s drinking, call Swift River at 413-570-9698 to speak confidentially with our caring admissions team about treatment options and family support services.
